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14 years ago
Thursday, November 20, 2008
The inevitable question?
We've always beaten people to the punch before they've had time to ask, "Are you going to have (any more) kids?" but at least two people have asked me in the last week which begs the question: Are we going to have another? I always thought I'd "just know" when my family felt complete but I fluctuate between feeling complete now and feeling like there is something missing. If we don't have another, I will often think of this third mystery child I always planned on having but never did. How would my life be different? Would it have been a boy or a girl? In the meantime, the annoying naggings of practicality weigh heavy (besides the fact that my husband isn't exactly dying to have another child): life is SO easy now-no diapers, no diaper bag, uninterrupted sleep, the lack of hypervigilance, the kids are almost in school and the prospect of returning to work would probably be delayed for another 5 years (which is a dangerously long time to be away from any profession-why go back?), the financial stress of an addition to the family, and the list goes on..........So what's the answer? I have NO idea-I'm still hoping for intuition to kick in I guess.
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From Sarah's mother - when I was about 38 years old and I had three wonderful daughters already, I was considering another child. I guess I felt the biological clocking ticking away. Jim was happy with our household, especially since Ashley was already five. For some wacky reason, I decided to ask our daughters for their opinion on more children or not. One of you offered these words of wisdom. "Since we already have three girls, what do we need another one for? And if you had a boy, it would only screw things up!" Of course, this doesn't help make up your mind and you have two terrific children so... Know that this question is not a new problem. Aren't you fortunate to be able to make this decision! As Granny, it would be difficult to improve over your first two efforts!
As we discussed last night, we are in a similar place. Me (and Joel) wondering when/if we should add to our family. Like you I feel like I should just "know" when the time is right, but at this point I don't "know and sometimes wonder if I ever will.
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